How I know I have a problem.

[timebomb]

How I know I have a problem with WoW.

My wife has told me she is going way for a day. She is leaving Saturday morning and not coming back until Sunday midday. She will be bringing the kids to the in-laws while she is gone. She told me this a month ago then a couple weeks ago and then again yesterday.

Problems are:

1. I am glad my wife and kids are gone for 24 hours. Uninterrupted gaming for a 24 hour marathon.
2. I have my meals and drinks planned. Ordering pizza and a Friday night run to store for beer.
3. I don’t plan on sleeping tell she and kids get back.
4. Now this is the biggest problem. I have no freaking idea where she is going and who she is with.
5. and this thought just hit me today.

Yes. I know she told me, but all I heard was “I’ll be gone from Saturday morning until Sunday midday and the kids will be at my moms”

[det]

Apart from point 4, I'd say I wish I was in your shoes. My wife never freaking goes away. I wish she would and I wouldn't care if it was with Leonard Di Caprio.

(because I know she can't stand him) :grin:

My wife watches something like 4-6 hours TV every day. Any discussion about my gaming habbits is dead the moment it starts ^^

[Burntmeat]

Ask her?....

[Foonyak]

Timebomb, just ask her. It may reflect poorly on your listening skills, but at least you'll know.

[Elly]

Apart from 4 I think you're ok. Treat yourself, it's okay to indulge every so often.

If you want to know where she's going then say "So, you looking forward to going away this weekend?" Smile and look happy for her when you say it. When she answers she might mention someone's name or a placename and then you'll know and avoid a discussion about how you never listen to what she's saying, which of course you're not fully :wink:

[Tanitha]

Man, I love those moments of peace and quiet around the house when one can just sinfully indulge in our hobby.

I'm in two minds about point 4 though.

Yes, it would be good to know - but why? There is a certain amount of trust in the relationship isn't there? If you trust her - it doesn't really matter what she is doing.

[timebomb]

I love my wife and kids to death and would never live without them. but I have to tell you guys, I really dont care where she is going or who with. I know this because the 1st 3 times she told me I did not listen to where or who.

I was telling my friend at work about my upcoming weekend (he plays too) and he asked "where is she going?" my answer was "oohhh my god", and we laughed about our addiction together.

just thought I'ed share.

[Zezeh]

Sounds good to me. Just run a few instances to take your mind off point 4… Haha!

[Foonyak]

Well, as long as you and she have a trusting relationship, I don't see the problem with not knowing, but if it will help ease your mind about the whole thing, just ask her.

Anyway, good luck with your 24 hour gaming binge. :grin:

[Stigg]

Excellent!

[PlayThemAll]

Savor every minute of it!

[nweed]

I'd ask if I was you. Unless you've had signs that she hates your gaming I'd worry about losing your family specially if she packs lots of bags for this weekend trip. But seriously just ask, my wife hates it when I ignore her but she hates it more when I freak out because she went on a week long trip somewhere and I didn't even notice.

[Xlorep DarkHelm]

Problems are:

1. I am glad my wife and kids are gone for 24 hours. Uninterrupted gaming for a 24 hour marathon.
2. I have my meals and drinks planned. Ordering pizza and a Friday night run to store for beer.
3. I don’t plan on sleeping tell she and kids get back.
4. Now this is the biggest problem. I have no freaking idea where she is going and who she is with.
5. and this thought just hit me today.


I've been glad when I have time to myself for things before. Nothing wrong with that. Honestly, I would gauge the health of a relationship by how much the two people are willing to let each other have as much (or as little) time "alone" to do little hobbies, like playing WoW (or in my case, also sitting down and working on a computer program, another section of a Dark Sun supplement, etc.).
Always a good call to have your meals planned out before a weekend-long gaming session.
Good luck with that. I can't do that any more, personally.
I would have to agree with the above sentiments on this. If your relationship has a level of trust in it, then it really shouldn't necessarily matter where she is going or what she is doing. It might be nice, but it shouldn't matter in the end. I would say that if you are curious, something like "honey, where was it you were going again?" probably should work (I tend to get absent-minded, so my fiancée understands when I forget things).
Have I mentioned that I get absent-minded? Honestly, I don't see this one as a problem.

[djiss]

Yes. I know she told me, but all I heard was “I’ll be gone from Saturday morning until Sunday midday and the kids will be at my moms”
You can ask her where you can join her in case of trouble, if she can't (or don't want) answer ... :ponder:

Maybe she's just testing you. to see if you'll care much about "woot! a gaming week-end" than about where she go, why and with who...

Just a suggestion, when she come back, telling her stuff "I missed you so much" and such blablabla and maybe some flower can give you some point. :)

You never know and for the cost it is, it's a good investment. lol

[icutyoubad]

I'll go ahead and throw my input in this. I've been married 10 years, have 4 kids, and I love playing WoW. That said, I cancelled my subscription yesterday for a few reasons. First, I think it will get me more... let's say, physical intimacy. This discussion came up and turned into an argument yesterday, and WoW was brought into it (not by me). Second, I need some time away from the game to concentrate on other facets of my life, namely, advancing my career. I fully plan on resuming my subscription in a few months though.

But I understand your feelings. Sure, if there is trust in the relationship it doesn't matter where she's going, yadda yadda yadda, but that isn't the point, is it? The point is, she told you multiple time she had plans to go somehwere and do something, and that is all you heard. She is going somewhere to do something. Now you, being a man who loves his wife, you feel guilty that all you know is she is going somewhere to do something. It isn't that you don't trust her. It isn't about her at all. It's about you. Am I right? It is about you not listening, not paying attention, letting this game eclipse those things that are truly important in your life. I understand where you are coming from.

On the flip side, it is awful nice to get 24 hours to yourself to do whatever you want. If it were me, I'd be planning a gaming session as well. In the future, when you hear her voice, you need to stop what you are doing and turn to her, look at her, and hear what she says. I know it's hard. Man, do I know it. You are in a group, running an instance, someone aggros the group across the hall, you have 7 Sekketh Gaurdians headed YOUR way, and she chooses this exact moment in time to want to tell you something important. How important could it be? More important than 7 Sekkeht Guardians determined to kill you? Hardly! So you let her drone in the background, nodding and saying mmmhmm in all the right places, and everytime you hear that inflection in her voice that signals she just asked a question, you just say "Yes, I agree", and continue dotting up those Sekketh bastards trying to rape your party.

But stop, turn to her, and listen. You're going to wipe anyway.

[gmedina]

How I know I have a problem with WoW.

My wife has told me she is going way for a day. She is leaving Saturday morning and not coming back until Sunday midday. She will be bringing the kids to the in-laws while she is gone. She told me this a month ago then a couple weeks ago and then again yesterday.

Problems are:

1. I am glad my wife and kids are gone for 24 hours. Uninterrupted gaming for a 24 hour marathon.
2. I have my meals and drinks planned. Ordering pizza and a Friday night run to store for beer.
3. I don’t plan on sleeping tell she and kids get back.
4. Now this is the biggest problem. I have no freaking idea where she is going and who she is with.
5. and this thought just hit me today.

Yes. I know she told me, but all I heard was “I’ll be gone from Saturday morning until Sunday midday and the kids will be at my moms”

This sounds very nice, and good as a family man i can appreciate the time off but there are a few questions i need to ask prior to either crying for u or congradulating u.

Here we go:
1) Why is she leaving for a day and a half. A) Did u just have a fight and she is taking the kids and leaving to escape from u? or B)Is this a thing where everything is fine she just has a getaway planned? If it is option A then ur screwed if it is option B then why not leave the kids?

This raises 2 more questions: C) Do you think the answer to the first question is option B whereas ur wife thinks the answer to the first question is option A? If so ur in some deep crap. or D) You are correct that the answer to the first question is option A and ur wife being the loving and supportive(*snort*) wife she is has decided to gift u with some time on ur own? If so then you again are golden and i wish i were you.

Now onto your line items, assuming that the above questions where answered in the happy manor then:

1. I am glad my wife and kids are gone for 24 hours. Uninterrupted gaming for a 24 hour marathon. (awesome)
2. I have my meals and drinks planned. Ordering pizza and a Friday night run to store for beer.(beer and WoW, could end up making mistakes or pissing off friends if your drunk)
3. I don’t plan on sleeping tell she and kids get back. (sleep???? are you crazy how often do you have an empty house for a gaming marathon. NO SLEEP)
4. Now this is the biggest problem. I have no freaking idea where she is going and who she is with.(again depending upon answers to above, who cares?)
5. and this thought just hit me today.


Good luck and happy leveling(i hope.)

[Fursphere]

Do you think your wife might be cheating on you?

You sound like you spend more time playing with WoW than you spend playing with your wife, just by your excitement of "omg more time for wow" post here.

Just something to consider. If you search google.com, you'll see a long of stories of WoW (and other MMOs) outright killing realtionships.

This may be a sign of things to come...

Or it may be something complete innocent.

[tardzilla]

Yeah, why isn't she leaving the kids with you? I smell trouble...

[kcma]

it wasn't me!! i'm not a home wrecker :p

[Fursphere]

On the flip side, it is awful nice to get 24 hours to yourself to do whatever you want. If it were me, I'd be planning a gaming session as well. In the future, when you hear her voice, you need to stop what you are doing and turn to her, look at her, and hear what she says. I know it's hard. Man, do I know it. You are in a group, running an instance, someone aggros the group.. *snip*

But stop, turn to her, and listen. You're going to wipe anyway.

If I get wife aggro (no matter how slight...) when she gets home and I'm playing, especially in an instance and she wants my attention, alt-f4 and walk away from the computer.

Its not even a question, its automatic.

The people in your group might get upset, but who cares. You don't live with them. You've got nothing invested in them.

spouse > wow

[Justinledwards]

Well she probably thinks you will just spend 24 hours cyborzing in WoW ?

[Atoz]

I love my wife and kids to death and would never live without them. but I have to tell you guys, I really dont care where she is going or who with. I know this because the 1st 3 times she told me I did not listen to where or who.

I was telling my friend at work about my upcoming weekend (he plays too) and he asked "where is she going?" my answer was "oohhh my god", and we laughed about our addiction together.

just thought I'ed share.

so all you heard was " wife.. kids... away for 24 hrs...." and you first thought was "Alright, uninteruped WoW"

too late to rethink it now, all you can do is wish her well and safety and thank her for the space she has given you. You should also set an alarm during your marathon to take a break, give her a call and thank her again for giving you space to have uninterupted WoW weekend.

[cyradis2003]

Yes, it would be good to know - but why? There is a certain amount of trust in the relationship isn't there? If you trust her - it doesn't really matter what she is doing.

:grin: Many reasons:

In case he needs to reach her
In case he hears there is a storm in her area and flights may be delayed
In case he gets to feeling like talking to her and wants to call but not while she is at a wedding, at a show, at a place she probably mentioned she would be.

[construct]

Quit WoW now!

[rottentomato]

1. make sure she doesnt know kcma...
2. just make sure ya get an idea on where she is going incase of emergency
3. find a cute little night elf chick to sate your lust while she is gone

[Goozba]

point 3 from above...
I must say... it works every time *cough*

[Mincemaker]

Ahem, why don't you get your wife to play?

Then you and your wife can then play together, quest together, battlegrounds and PVP together, duel together and when you and your wife are at level 70 with decent PVP gear, make a 2 person arena team and pwn the other teams together. Good way to spend quality time together.

And then get your kids to play WoW next. Who knows, then you can have a guild filled completely with your family members, and you and your family gets to raid and PVP.

Fun times.

[MrBCorp]

Problems are:

1. I am glad my wife and kids are gone for 24 hours. Uninterrupted gaming for a 24 hour marathon.

I don't see how this is a problem. Husband and wife are supposed to give each other time alone so you can appreciate the other and grow to miss them.


2. I have my meals and drinks planned. Ordering pizza and a Friday night run to store for beer.

Don't see how this is a problem either. Maybe you anticipate the store won't be open? Maybe you think it will detract from your WoW time/experience ?


3. I don’t plan on sleeping tell she and kids get back.

Could be a problem if you're too tired when they get back. Best you have some energy when they come back so you can be all excited when you greet them.


4. Now this is the biggest problem. I have no freaking idea where she is going and who she is with.

That's a big problem. Best you fix it. Ask someone who knows.


5. and this thought just hit me today.

Because you have other things on your mind. Maybe you have been playing too much. Might be time to get your life back soon.

[kcma]

Yes, it would be good to know - but why? There is a certain amount of trust in the relationship isn't there? If you trust her - it doesn't really matter what she is doing.

yes yes, trust is key. i'm sure she's just someone else's platonic cuddling buddy, u know :p

but i agree with you, i wouldn't be in a relationship if i'm not capable of trusting that person.

[Naolin]

Sorry but, I would always ask my significant other where she was going if she was going away for a few days. I would call that having interest in their life, but hey what do I know I'm not married :p

[SadaraK]

Sorry but, I would always ask my significant other where she was going if she was going away for a few days. I would call that having interest in their life, but hey what do I know I'm not married :p

If your not married then you haven't had the tuning knob installed in your head that tends to block out all the little details you dont need to know while letting in the stuff you do. The problem is when the tuning knob is broke and decides to tune out actual important stuff ;).

[kcma]

Sorry but, I would always ask my significant other where she was going if she was going away for a few days. I would call that having interest in their life, but hey what do I know I'm not married :p

there's a difference between trusting and not giving a poopy :p

[Dominatrixx]

LOL... honey, is that you?

ps--- do what I do, get your spouse hooked and then you can tune each other out. (*I jest* - it helps to have a communication "waiver" when one is playing WoW, just make sure you make time for each other otherwise)

[Naolin]

there's a difference between trusting and not giving a poopy :p

Ofcourse but this one seems afraid to ask, that is very strange in my book :ponder:

[timebomb]

Honestly guys I found the fact that I had no idea where she was going kind of funny. I do not have marital problems at all. Yes I play too much but who does not. My wife loves me and she is bringing kids to in-laws for my sake. I asked last night and she is going to a camp with some work friends.

Do I trust her? Yes 100%. Why you ask? I been with her 15 years and for the 1st 10 years I played billiards armature and I traveled all over the place Vages, Atlantic City, Pennsylvania, Vermont, mass. Playing in bars, halls, conversion centers and she always trusted me.

Tip of the day everyone is "if you don’t trust your spouse then you don’t trust yourself"

thank you all for your imput. I plan on having a good time this weekend.

If she is cheating I hope she learns something new. She'll always come home to Daddy.

[SLUGFly]

Maybe she's really sneaking off to sign on with her alt so she can find you in game and corpse-camp you for 24 hours in attempt to turn you off to WoW :grin:

[Aswer]

I'm sorry but I don't agree with the paranoid views on point 4.

I believe that, in a healthy, trusting relationship, there is no need to know it. She is free to go with whomever she wants, and you trust she won't do anything stupid.

I never ask my girlfriend who she is going out with, or where she is going to. If she tells me, I listen, if she doesn't, I just go on with my business.

Just make sure to tell her to keep her cell phone handy and filled up in case of an emergency. She probably doesn't leave the kids with you because she thinks you need some time to yourself and your little (sane) addiction.

My .02 dirham anyway.

[earindur]

Maybe she's really sneaking off to sign on with her alt so she can find you in game and corpse-camp you for 24 hours in attempt to turn you off to WoW :grin:

you made me LOL in work, now they all think im mad(er).

[timebomb]

Maybe she's really sneaking off to sign on with her alt so she can find you in game and corpse-camp you for 24 hours in attempt to turn you off to WoW :grin:

THATS THE BEST LOLOLOLOL.

[Kerosene]

i think this thread just convinced me to quit wow.

[djiss]

Maybe she's really sneaking off to sign on with her alt so she can find you in game and corpse-camp you for 24 hours in attempt to turn you off to WoW :grin:

Maybe it's the camp she talk about... with a couple of friend to gank you and be sure you stay dead :grin:

She'll always come home to Daddy.
You're not the first to say that. A friend of mine was letting his girlfriend flirt with everything in the bar while he was drinking with us elsewhere. I once asked him why he let her do that and he answered stuff like you "She can flirt as she want with anyone, anyway she always come back to me and I'm the one who sleep with her." /flex
She once came back with something new... and they needed some medecines. :grin:
But that him, and knowing her girlfirend, I knew it was about to happen one day or another.

[unbdm]

I didn't read the whole thread... sorry... but if she doens't leave a list of things to do in the yard / around the house.... you are truly lucky...

My wife doens't work... I never have time at the house by myself... I can't imagine...

I'll show my age... I would start off by ordering pizza, putting on Rush 2112, with a few other 70-80s guitar rock cd's in the cd player... rebooting my pc and making any mod / key assign adjustments I'd been pondering... and blast away...

Have fun! But I would sleep.. I would miss the kids, and want to be in good form when they returned (I woulnd't be getting 8 hours or anything crazy like that... but a healthy 4-5 hrs).

Best Regards,
Barry

[timebomb]

I didn't read the whole thread... sorry... but if she doens't leave a list of things to do in the yard / around the house.... you are truly lucky...

My wife doens't work... I never have time at the house by myself... I can't imagine...

I'll show my age... I would start off by ordering pizza, putting on Rush 2112, with a few other 70-80s guitar rock cd's in the cd player... rebooting my pc and making any mod / key assign adjustments I'd been pondering... and blast away...

Have fun! But I would sleep.. I would miss the kids, and want to be in good form when they returned (I woulnd't be getting 8 hours or anything crazy like that... but a healthy 4-5 hrs).

Best Regards,
Barry

YOUR 36. how do i know?

[laffncry]

How I know I have a problem with WoW.

My wife has told me she is going way for a day. She is leaving Saturday morning and not coming back until Sunday midday. She will be bringing the kids to the in-laws while she is gone. She told me this a month ago then a couple weeks ago and then again yesterday.

Problems are:

1. I am glad my wife and kids are gone for 24 hours. Uninterrupted gaming for a 24 hour marathon.
2. I have my meals and drinks planned. Ordering pizza and a Friday night run to store for beer.
3. I don’t plan on sleeping tell she and kids get back.
4. Now this is the biggest problem. I have no freaking idea where she is going and who she is with.
5. and this thought just hit me today.

Yes. I know she told me, but all I heard was “I’ll be gone from Saturday morning until Sunday midday and the kids will be at my moms”

hmmm..numbers 1 - 3 are okay. but with 4 & 5?? i smell something! on the lighter side of things, maybe she is just trying to tell you something. i mean like a hint! you might be ignoring her because you focus too much on gaming! but there are endless possibilities out there. observe & listen man!:evil:

[unbdm]

YOUR 36. how do i know?

lol... I wish I was still 36... 42....