Should I go for it?

[Stormatak]

So I signed up on this dating site and within a week I have 3 women interested in me that live close to my area. The only problem is I'm 18 and their ages are 36, 37, and 40. Must be my beard.

[semiiramiis]

I'd have to say...no. I'm a woman within those ages (39), and I'm a little confused and concerned why, if they know how old you AREN'T, they'd consider it. I have an 18 year old son, who is mature for his age, but he's young. He wants to do young things, and should be surrounded by young people, not his Mama. And like it or not, any woman of that age will start to treat you like she's your mama. Or worse. Try again, find something much closer to your age than that.

[Stormatak]

But the problem with that is any woman closer to my age doesn't find me attractive. If I were on a tv show it would be called "Hairy Men: The Last Generation"

[Khab]

Cut your hair and try the clean cut look. That may change the way people look at you. As far as should you go for it? I would at least meet them (in public) and see what happens.

[Stormatak]

No. I'm tired of all these people telling me that I should cut my hair and have a clean shave. If none of the younger ladies out there can't accept my cave man look, I'll go for the older if I have to. I'm not going to let women rule over me, shape my life, like some of these metro-looking men do.

[MixiMan]

25 years speaking here, go for it. If it goes badly you learn something. If it goes really badly you still have a good story to tell once you are over whatever scenario happened. If it goes well...you have an extra mother.

It's all about the stories man

[Xlorep DarkHelm]

If your attractiveness to women fails because you aren't clean-cut... and you refuse to be clean-cut, you are intentionally shooting yourself in the foot, and nobody can help you.

[Stormatak]

I said it fails around the women close to my age. Not to the women far from my age. I'm not "shooting myself in the foot", I'm making a stand. A stand for all those men out there who don't want to look like the male version of their lady.

[MixiMan]

I might have just fed the Troll....Continuing to do so:

Make a stand all you want. The only thing it will accomplish is requiring you to make an even harder/bigger/obscener stand.

Still standing by my previous story statement though.

[elsegundo]

No. I'm tired of all these people telling me that I should cut my hair and have a clean shave. If none of the younger ladies out there can't accept my cave man look, I'll go for the older if I have to. I'm not going to let women rule over me, shape my life, like some of these metro-looking men do.

wow the stereotypes.

i dress well, and some say that im metro-looking. sure, but i dont let any woman rule or shape my life. my gf, and most of my girl friends call me an ashole. so what? in any case, i think you got the image all wrong. but then again, you're only 19. at your age i had those misconceptions too.


oh and keep things light. try not to put too much into your dates as of now. just hit it and quit it.

there's more than just looks. dont point to your looks and blame that because you're not with anyone your own age. perhaps its a start, but its not the whole of it.


also, you need to understand the psychology of who you're dating, or who you're trying to date. a younger woman has different motives than the older women who are replying to your classified. you'll see.

[Stormatak]

Psychology huh? Sounds like the modern-term for astrology. Except astrology is easier to understand.

[surodat]

No. I'm tired of all these people telling me that I should cut my hair and have a clean shave. If none of the younger ladies out there can't accept my cave man look, I'll go for the older if I have to. I'm not going to let women rule over me, shape my life, like some of these metro-looking men do.

My suggestion is to eat a lot, build a little muscle and go play Bear-daddy for twinks. You can be the top of course, bottoms are so feminine.

(Yeah, it's that the ladies "don't accept" your look. Nothing about your personality)

[Turonx]

Psychology huh? Sounds like the modern-term for astrology. Except astrology is easier to understand.

??WHAT!! psychology and astrology are totally different that like comparing a kitty to a bear...

I understand you want to be yourself and thats an good thing but just because some men like myself like to look clean cut doesn't mean where controlled by women. Well to you question I say go for it now this doesn't mean your going to like all the older women you find but I do wish you hope and if it doesn't work maybe you should keep at your age.

[Twoflower]

Psychology huh? Sounds like the modern-term for astrology. Except astrology is easier to understand.

lol sounds like your beard isnt your only problem :P

anyway, i wouldnt date someone old enugh to be my mother.

[bearbehind]

I dont think that you are repelling to young women, I think you may be repelling to all women - But the older ones that are A) still single and B) desperate enough to be interested in a 19 year old are not really bothered by looks.

Dont want to be repelling? Wash, hair cut and sort yourself out. Dont have to be 'metro' just a certain level of base hygiene says alot about you...

[Eileithyia]

Just because a man washes and cuts his hair doesn’t exactly mean he’s being controlled by a woman, more he has a bit of respect for his own body and appearance.

For me hygiene is one of the most important factors for a 1st impression (Clean looking, dressed smart and smells nice) if he’s hairy and dirty looking its not a good start.

Just try to make some effort in your appearance and you will probably feel more confidence in your self, and maybe pick a woman up who’s not on a dating web site.

[mesonm]

So I signed up on this dating site and within a week I have 3 women interested in me that live close to my area. The only problem is I'm 18 and their ages are 36, 37, and 40. Must be my beard.

You'll come down to earth at some point.

[Herald of Doom]

I'm 22, have a beard and long hair and have no trouble with women my age. Ofcourse the beard is trimmed every other day, and regular haircuts make sure I don't get the caveman look. Would you be intrested in women who don't shave their legs and have unkempt hair?

And I wouldn't date women that old. There's a saying in Dutch "in een ouwe pan leer je goed koken" , in an old pot you learn best how to cook, but there are limits :p

[Davemetalhead]

Personally, I would love to have dated women in their 30's when I was 19 or so. Women at that age tend to know a lot more about what they're about - they're far less flighty and concerned with image and peer status. There's something very sexy about a confident woman.

[MixiMan]

Once again. Do it for the story you can tell your mates. Good story>all.

[elsegundo]

Psychology huh? Sounds like the modern-term for astrology. Except astrology is easier to understand.

then you dont understand much.





good luck with your dates.

[Xlorep DarkHelm]

I did the whole "grunge" look for a bit... and the whole "goth" look for a bit too (while I was in the Army). After I got out of the Army, I couldn't be bothered with getting a haircut, or with shaving. My hair got long, as did my beard 'n 'stache... I was tired of constantly needing to cut my hair in the Army (once a week or so), and just let it grow for about 3 years. Then I got tired of my hair getting in my face, and I got it all cut off, back to a "regular" haircut...

During that time... my friends hung out with me, because they knew me. But people who didn't know me, I probably looked a bit like a freak and it wasn't exactly a positive first impression to give a stranger, much less any woman I was interested in. Appearance has everything to do with first impressions... and probably should have little to do with beyond that, once you know the person. But for people to get to know you, for women to get to know you, you do have to at least make the effort to make yourself presentable, give a good first impression, or you have to learn to be patient until you can find a woman who will look past your appearance and not let it sway her opinion of you (or one that actually likes the look).

All in all, it is up to you. About the older women thing... Well, when I was 22, I was dating a woman who was 32, I don't let age be much of a factor in my opinion of someone...