Is it silly to love someone who cares about games more than you?

[RachelSu]

I feel very upset.

First of all, it seems most people strongly dislike me due to my sensitive post. (What do you think of trade in WOW?)
I just would like to know why people buy golds though I have already got some answers such as "jump to the top level with less time", "don't wanna be beated by others", "time is money" and something like that.
Maybe I asked in a wrong way.
I admit I'm not good at expressing myself.

Secondly, I made another post about dota. Someone told me it doesn't make sense.

Could anyone ever understand me? I just try to know better why he loves these games so much though I know most guys love games.

Back to the thread, is it very silly to love someone who cares about games more than you?

I just speeched out my feelings.

[jschild]

It's human to love people who don't love you as much as other things.

That being said, do not devote yourself to anyone who gives greater time and love to a game over yourself. Nothing but heartbreak lies that way.

[Kodonn]

I feel very upset.

First of all, it seems most people strongly dislike me due to my sensitive post. (What do you think of trade in WOW?)
I just would like to know why people buy golds though I have already got some answers such as "jump to the top level with less time", "don't wanna be beated by others", "time is money" and something like that.
Maybe I asked in a wrong way.
I admit I'm not good at expressing myself.

First of all...welcome to the forums.
Secondly, you should NEVER take anything that is posted here personally.
Your post about WoW gold wasn't very clear so maybe some of us did not understand what you really wanted to ask, but it sounds like you got some answers anyway.

Secondly, I made another post about dota. Someone told me it doesn't make sense.

I don't know what DOTA is, but I will assume it's some kind of computer game. Remember that people from many countries are reading these forums, so sometimes the language barrier creates misunderstandings. Some readers are more patient than others, so your replies will vary. Just remember not to take it personally.


Could anyone ever understand me? I just try to know better why he loves these games so much though I know most guys love games.

Back to the thread, is it very silly to love someone who cares about games more than you?

I just speeched out my feelings.

I think it's good that you are trying to find out more about these games so you can better understand the person you love. Understanding is always a good thing. Also, the more you try to express your ideas, the better it will help people here to understand you.

And, no, it's not silly. You don't have to like ALL the same things or hobbies as the other person. Everyone needs their own space sometimes.

Sometimes it may seem that the other person "loves" their game or hobby more than they love you. Sometimes it all about the timing.
I know a lot of couples who play WoW together...and enjoy it. I also know a lot of people who play WoW while their husband or wife or significant other goes and does something else. It's something that the 2 of you have to work out and decide. If you don't like WoW, can you be happy doing something else (reading, walking, going to a movie, etc) while he plays his game? Can he limit his playing in order to spend time with you?

Those are questions that every relationship faces. It's all part of finding out if you belong together or not.

[RachelSu]

It's human to love people who don't love you as much as other things.

That being said, do not devote yourself to anyone who gives greater time and love to a game over yourself. Nothing but heartbreak lies that way.

I just don't understand why I can't stop loving him.

Even I tried to learn these games for him though I got frustrated again and again.

Thanks for your kind advice.

What if you have someone who is treating you like me, how will you feel?

[mesonm]

I feel very upset.

First of all, it seems most people strongly dislike me due to my sensitive post. (What do you think of trade in WOW?)
I just would like to know why people buy golds though I have already got some answers such as "jump to the top level with less time", "don't wanna be beated by others", "time is money" and something like that.
Maybe I asked in a wrong way.
I admit I'm not good at expressing myself.

Secondly, I made another post about dota. Someone told me it doesn't make sense.


First, I do not believe that anyone dislikes YOU because of a post...It may be that they dislike the subject, and disagree with a position you took in the post. This, of course, is normal in a forum environment.


Could anyone ever understand me? I just try to know better why he loves these games so much though I know most guys love games.

Back to the thread, is it very silly to love someone who cares about games more than you?

How do you know what "most guys" love?

So, you love someone who loves games more than you...Is it your boyfriend? your husband? Or just someone you love and who you want to love you also?

Perhaps that person isn't the right one for you, long term?

[semiiramiis]

DOTA is Defense of the Ancient, which is a Warcraft III tournament mod.

As for the rest of it, I've been married to a die hard gaming geek of doom for 20 years. He's not going to change. I've spent entire dates hanging around mall arcades while he played computer games. I've been the designated "Read the hint book and don't let what I'm not looking for slip!" person. I've bought piles of chips and sodas for the Battletech games, and growled as they kept waking the baby up yelling at a particularly good roll.

If this is the behavior you're dealing with, then I'm going to ask how is this treating you badly?

[Kodonn]

I just don't understand why I can't stop loving him.
That's easy. It's because you are focussing all of your thoughts and emotions on him, and trying to mold your life around his. You need to be yourself first. Try finding something you like to do...for yourself. If it's not games, maybe art. Do you paint? Sculpt? How about athletic type things, like swimming? Maybe reading? Put some time into doing something YOU like.

Then see if your feelings about him are the same. If they are, then the 2 of you need to talk about how you spend your time...IF you want a relationship.


Even I tried to learn these games for him though I got frustrated again and again.

Trying is good. If you want to know more about how WoW can be played....there are so many different things to do it would take me another hour to list...this forum is a good place to ask.

But if you don't like it....then DO NOT force yourself to play simply because you think HE will like you for playing. That will only make you resent the game and then resent him. That is not good.

Thanks for your kind advice.

What if you have someone who is treating you like me, how will you feel?

I don't think we know enough to answer that question. Is he treating you badly, or just ignoring you so he can play his games? Does he not respect you? Does he want to love you? What kind of a relationship is best for you? Are you independant or are you very needy? Do you always want him to pay attention to you, or do you like to spend time by yourself or with other friends sometimes?

An important thing in a relationship is NOT to build your life around the other person, because then if you don't have them...you have nothing. Be yourself and THEN let your life blend with his.

[Mazhulsage]

I only said those things because you made "DOTA, enjoy it? Discuss". practically.

[Amra]

Back to the thread, is it very silly to love someone who cares about games more than you?
It's not silly to love them. It IS silly to expect love in return.

Move on.


I've spent entire dates hanging around mall arcades while he played computer games. I've been the designated "Read the hint book and don't let what I'm not looking for slip!" person. I've bought piles of chips and sodas for the Battletech games, and growled as they kept waking the baby up yelling at a particularly good roll.

If this is the behavior you're dealing with, then I'm going to ask how is this treating you badly?
Maybe I'm missing something but that doesn't seem like behavior I could tolerate. :ponder:

[surodat]

Maybe I'm missing something but that doesn't seem like behavior I could tolerate. :ponder:

Like everything, it's a give and take. If he's not tolerating an equal amount of your personal insanity - then there's a problem. :D

[TPMdm]

Like everything, it's a give and take. If he's not tolerating an equal amount of your personal insanity - then there's a problem. :D

OMG... ftw. Gender neutralizing it a bit: "If you partner isn't tolerating an equal amount of your personal insanity - then there's a problem"

That is pure gold surodat, thanks.

[RachelSu]

First, I do not believe that anyone dislikes YOU because of a post...It may be that they dislike the subject, and disagree with a position you took in the post. This, of course, is normal in a forum environment.


I agree that it's very normal in a forum environment. I understand. Also I think I was too emotional last night. Sorry.
Perhaps the subjest is too sensitive or I asked in a wrong way.


How do you know what "most guys" love?

Okay, then should I post like "what do you guys love, game? sport? cooking? girls?"
I don't think I'm gonna make that post but I would like to have your answer.

So, you love someone who loves games more than you...Is it your boyfriend? your husband? Or just someone you love and who you want to love you also?
Can I keep this question as a secret for now?

DOTA is Defense of the Ancient, which is a Warcraft III tournament mod.

RTS is good cos it costs no money though a lot of time if you wanna play it well.

As for the rest of it, I've been married to a die hard gaming geek of doom for 20 years. He's not going to change. I've spent entire dates hanging around mall arcades while he played computer games. I've been the designated "Read the hint book and don't let what I'm not looking for slip!" person. I've bought piles of chips and sodas for the Battletech games, and growled as they kept waking the baby up yelling at a particularly good roll.

If this is the behavior you're dealing with, then I'm going to ask how is this treating you badly?

I don't think I'm that great or selfless. Otherwise, I won't conplain here, right?

How about answering you in 20 years?

But if you don't like it....then DO NOT force yourself to play simply because you think HE will like you for playing. That will only make you resent the game and then resent him. That is not good.

I think I resent WOW more than DOTA.
Huh, I hope I won't get killed cos most guys here play WOW.
And you seem to be crazy about it since it will take you an hour to list..Scare me!

I don't think we know enough to answer that question. Is he treating you badly, or just ignoring you so he can play his games? Does he not respect you? Does he want to love you? What kind of a relationship is best for you? Are you independant or are you very needy? Do you always want him to pay attention to you, or do you like to spend time by yourself or with other friends sometimes?

Firstly, I'm that kind of person who has a short temper but he is good to some extent. He seldom fights with me but ignores me a lot due to game.

I don't think I like to spend time alone but right now I enjoy talking on this forum with guys. Nevertheless, I can tell our topics will end sooner or later.

You know, you guys talk about your favorite WOW.

An important thing in a relationship is NOT to build your life around the other person, because then if you don't have them...you have nothing. Be yourself and THEN let your life blend with his.

I will try but it's easy said than done. More importantly, I guess I need to grow more mature.

[RachelSu]

Kodonn, I just wanna say:
Thank you very much! You are the first person on this forum who made me feel warm here.

I think at present he is too young (he is a couple years younger than me.) I'm not sure whether he is gonna change or not.

I just know I can't leave him, at least not now. So I try to play the games he likes and figure it out why he loves them.

On the other hand, I think I'm too old to play this game, lol.
That's why I got killed so much times, frustrated.

[mesonm]

I think at present he is too young (he is a couple years younger than me.)

Are you older or younger than 20 yourself?

[RachelSu]

Are you older or younger than 20 yourself?

Yep. Am I too old to be here? LOL

[RachelSu]

BTW, Mesonm.
It seems you miss that
"Okay, then should I post like "what do you guys love, game? sport? cooking? girls?"
I don't think I'm gonna make that post but I would like to have your answer."

[mesonm]

Yep. Am I too old to be here? LOL

Nice. I see how you avoided answering "older" or "younger"...and simply said that you were one of the two. That was clever.


BTW, Mesonm.
It seems you miss that
"Okay, then should I post like "what do you guys love, game? sport? cooking? girls?"
I don't think I'm gonna make that post but I would like to have your answer."

You want my answer as to all of the things I (me, personally, as compared to generalizing what others...) love? My apologies, but we don't have enough time or space here...There are many things I enjoy...video games are on the list, but are not in the top ten.

[RachelSu]

Nice. I see how you avoided answering "older" or "younger"...and simply said that you were one of the two. That was clever.

Cos I don't really wanna let others know my age but you guys can tell, right?^^

From your own experience, what age is for most players, averagely?



You want my answer as to all of the things I (me, personally, as compared to generalizing what others...) love? My apologies, but we don't have enough time or space here...There are many things I enjoy...video games are on the list, but are not in the top ten.

Then what are the top ten? And what is your NO. 1?:grin:

[semiiramiis]

Meh. What difference does it matter if a forum knows how old you are? What gender you are? Pretty much everyone here knows I'm female. Knows I'm staring 40 in the face at my next birthday. Doesn't matter.

And yeah, obviously my husband tolerates a great deal of my insanity, just as I tolerate his. I'm not selfless. I'm not a martyr. He's a great, wonderful guy who merrily ignores that fact that his birthday happened to coincide with when I was finishing Clarimonde, which meant I was very distracted. He was willing to wait until he got my attention again. He tolerates my own 36 straight hour gaming marathons. He's an uber leet guy. A fine husband. A superlative father. So he's a gamer. He made no bones about that when we first started dating, he was willing to be honest with me about that every step of the way.

Long term relationships are a matter of tolerance, both ways.

[RachelSu]

Meh. What difference does it matter if a forum knows how old you are? What gender you are? Pretty much everyone here knows I'm female. Knows I'm staring 40 in the face at my next birthday. Doesn't matter.

And yeah, obviously my husband tolerates a great deal of my insanity, just as I tolerate his. I'm not selfless. I'm not a martyr. He's a great, wonderful guy who merrily ignores that fact that his birthday happened to coincide with when I was finishing Clarimonde, which meant I was very distracted. He was willing to wait until he got my attention again. He tolerates my own 36 straight hour gaming marathons. He's an uber leet guy. A fine husband. A superlative father. So he's a gamer. He made no bones about that when we first started dating, he was willing to be honest with me about that every step of the way.

Long term relationships are a matter of tolerance, both ways.

Oh, you were telling your own story? I thought you just made an assumption.

I think I should learn from you more.

It's true I have known from the very beginning he is a gamer. It doesn't mean he doesn't care about me, just sometimes addicted to games, ignoring me.

Many nice people here made a lot good advice to me. I'm very thankful.

I would try to pay less attention on ONLY his world but blend with his.

I agree that it is silly to expect the return love.

I'm much fine right. Sorry to make a big complaint here.

[Kodonn]

From your own experience, what age is for most players, averagely?


For WoW, I think it would be very difficult to determine an average age.
I know in my own guild we have some players as young as 12 yrs old (they play same time their Mother and sister play) and at least as old as 50 :hide: (they really teased me about that because my assistant GL put it on the guild message of the day). And I am pretty sure we have a few who are older than that.

Of course you could also probably find guilds where the oldest and youngest members are only 2 or 3 years apart.

We have families who play, couples, married couples and just singles. We have people from all over the U.S. and as far away as New Zealand and Japan. Most of us have full time jobs and can only play a few hours each day, but there are so many different things to do that you can always find something to fill the time.

I don't think you could say that any of us (well maybe there are 2 in my guild who do) are in "love" with the game. To us it's a way to keep in touch with each other, share stories, and just have people we can count on, to have fun with. We don't build our life around WoW (except maybe the week when the expansion packs come out), we just use it to fill in some of the gaps when there isn't time to do something else.

But I am sure you could also find guilds that put in 8 or 10 hours a day if you look hard enough.

[TPMdm]

Subtle troll is subtle? OR there are some cultural differences that make RachelSu's replies sound odd to our Western ears.

[RachelSu]

Of course you could also probably find guilds where the oldest and youngest members are only 2 or 3 years apart.

You have a great sense of humor!

And you must be the guy who I'm gonna miss if I leave here.

Anyway, I'm very happy to "meet" you.

Subtle troll is subtle? OR there are some cultural differences that make RachelSu's replies sound odd to our Western ears.

Whatever you said! I'm a freaky, okay?

[ptarn]

Rachel, I'm on the 'other side' of your 'problem', so to speak. I'm a woman who's been married to a very fine husband for almost two years and we've known each other for more than eight years, hehe. I love playing WoW. I look up stuff in my free time, I enjoy questing, occasional person-versus-person fighting and I'm doing regular guild runs with my social guild (and we're making progress!). This means I'm online quite a lot and some time ago my husband said it was just too much. At first I didn't think so, but when he kept talking about it, I realized he was right.

So we made arrangements. I would only go online on certain times during the week AND whenever there was something else I wanted/needed to do, I'd tell him beforehand. Since then everything has been better. He knows when I'm gonna be online and even supports me by bringing me something to drink or eat and even listening to me explaining that we 'downed a boss' (defeated him) or that I got some very good gear from a run (fighting in a dungeon). On the other days I only play WoW when we don't have any other plans, like watching a movie together or going out to dinner or just talking a bit and such.

What I'm trying to say, is, that if the person you love and who loves you in return doesn't want to talk with you about setting 'rules' or making arrangements on when or how long or how much to play a game that he/she loves, I think you should ask yourself how much you're willing to take or sacrifice just to indulge that other person in his or her interests. And that's a question only you can ask yourself and that only you can answer.

[MrBCorp]

Ok I just had to respond to such an interesting post.

I feel very upset.
First of all, it seems most people strongly dislike me due to my sensitive post. (What do you think of trade in WOW?)

This is common among almost all web boards/forums unfortunately. Everyone quickly jumps on the misunderstood newcomer.

Perhaps the subject is too sensitive or I asked in a wrong way.

I would go with 'too sensitive'.

Could anyone ever understand me?

I haven't read all your posts, but I understand you. You're actually easier to understnad thant hose people that make an unbeliveable nunber of spelling mistakes like they are russhed for time. I hate trying to read that.



Back to the thread, is it very silly to love someone who cares about games more than you?

I just speeched out my feelings.

Silly? Foolish, a bad idea, not smart, all of the above. Why, yes I believe it is, but the heart wants what the heart wants. If we could control it, things would be very different. Actually, it depends what you are asking. If you meant, "is it silly to love someone who cares about games more than they care about you?" Then I would say the above, but if you meant, "is it silly to love someone who cares about games more than you care about games?", then I would say, maybe. If you don't mind playing them with him occasionally then you'll be fine. But if it's something that he absolutely loves and he spends most of his free time doing it, and you don't really like it, then you might have a hard time.

I just don't understand why I can't stop loving him.

Maybe he's got a spell on you? :tongue:

Even I tried to learn these games for him though I got frustrated again and again.

What if you have someone who is treating you like me, how will you feel?

Wow. That is dedication. I would be honoured and flattered to have someone in my life who was willing to go through all that hard work. You must really like him.

I think at present he is too young (he is a couple years younger than me.) I'm not sure whether he is gonna change or not.

He will change, everyone changes. It is the nature of things. Although, it will probably be slowly, like over a gradual amount of time.

On the other hand, I think I'm too old to play this game, lol.
That's why I got killed so much times, frustrated.

Yep. Am I too old to be here? LOL

Oh-ho, you did not just say that. There are some very old people playing WoW (and other games).

Also, don't worry, I'm not very good, but I still play. It's not about being the best, it's about having fun. Find something within the game you like (I like doing AH stuff for example).

Okay, then should I post like "what do you guys love, game? sport? cooking? girls?"
I don't think I'm gonna make that post but I would like to have your answer.

All of them plus a few more.

I just speeched out my feelings.

That is brilliant! I love it! It's right up there with "it scares my guts out" and "must be got". It isn't correct English, but you understand it. I love it! (no hidden meaning there, I really do love Chinglish)

Whatever you said! I'm a freaky, okay?

This is also good! :grin:


Rachel Su, you have a great disposition and a nicely different way of things. I hope you stick around, this place could use you.

Welcome to the forums! :flowers::wave::smiley:

[RachelSu]

Rachel, I'm on the 'other side' of your 'problem', so to speak. I'm a woman who's been married to a very fine husband for almost two years and we've known each other for more than eight years, hehe. I love playing WoW. I look up stuff in my free time, I enjoy questing, occasional person-versus-person fighting and I'm doing regular guild runs with my social guild (and we're making progress!). This means I'm online quite a lot and some time ago my husband said it was just too much. At first I didn't think so, but when he kept talking about it, I realized he was right.

So we made arrangements. I would only go online on certain times during the week AND whenever there was something else I wanted/needed to do, I'd tell him beforehand. Since then everything has been better. He knows when I'm gonna be online and even supports me by bringing me something to drink or eat and even listening to me explaining that we 'downed a boss' (defeated him) or that I got some very good gear from a run (fighting in a dungeon). On the other days I only play WoW when we don't have any other plans, like watching a movie together or going out to dinner or just talking a bit and such.

What I'm trying to say, is, that if the person you love and who loves you in return doesn't want to talk with you about setting 'rules' or making arrangements on when or how long or how much to play a game that he/she loves, I think you should ask yourself how much you're willing to take or sacrifice just to indulge that other person in his or her interests. And that's a question only you can ask yourself and that only you can answer.

Thx for your own story. I think I indulge him a lot. I have lots of boy friends, who always said "there are so few girls like you that can accompany their boyfriends in such a way." They might only comfort me or make a small complaint to their own girlfriends.

Anyway, I'm learning to like this game.

Ok I just had to respond to such an interesting post.



This is common among almost all web boards/forums unfortunately. Everyone quickly jumps on the misunderstood newcomer.



I would go with 'too sensitive'.



I haven't read all your posts, but I understand you. You're actually easier to understnad thant hose people that make an unbeliveable nunber of spelling mistakes like they are russhed for time. I hate trying to read that.



Silly? Foolish, a bad idea, not smart, all of the above. Why, yes I believe it is, but the heart wants what the heart wants. If we could control it, things would be very different. Actually, it depends what you are asking. If you meant, "is it silly to love someone who cares about games more than they care about you?" Then I would say the above, but if you meant, "is it silly to love someone who cares about games more than you care about games?", then I would say, maybe. If you don't mind playing them with him occasionally then you'll be fine. But if it's something that he absolutely loves and he spends most of his free time doing it, and you don't really like it, then you might have a hard time.



Maybe he's got a spell on you? :tongue:



Wow. That is dedication. I would be honoured and flattered to have someone in my life who was willing to go through all that hard work. You must really like him.



He will change, everyone changes. It is the nature of things. Although, it will probably be slowly, like over a gradual amount of time.





Oh-ho, you did not just say that. There are some very old people playing WoW (and other games).

Also, don't worry, I'm not very good, but I still play. It's not about being the best, it's about having fun. Find something within the game you like (I like doing AH stuff for example).



All of them plus a few more.



That is brilliant! I love it! It's right up there with "it scares my guts out" and "must be got". It isn't correct English, but you understand it. I love it! (no hidden meaning there, I really do love Chinglish)



This is also good! :grin:


Rachel Su, you have a great disposition and a nicely different way of things. I hope you stick around, this place could use you.

Welcome to the forums! :flowers::wave::smiley:

First of all, I really appreciate all your replies.

It's a while since my last visit due to my crazy work. I'm surprised to read all these things. I feel flattered.

Good to meet you here.

[Kodonn]

Anyway, I'm learning to like this game.



So, glad to hear things are looking up. :sunny:
I'm curious as to how you are playing and what parts are you liking?
By "how", I mean....do you play at the same time as your boyfriend, doing the same quests and stuff? Or have you started on your own and begun experiencing the game from a first-time-here perspective?

I know several couples who play WoW and I always find it interesting to learn what works and doesn't work. Some of them log on together and do all the quests together and you never see their toons more than a few feet apart. But others that I know don't even play in the same guild. One likes hard core raiding and the other likes to "stop and smell the roses" so to speak.

Whatever works for you, I hope you continue to enjoy it. :thumbsup:

[RachelSu]

So, glad to hear things are looking up. :sunny:
I'm curious as to how you are playing and what parts are you liking?
By "how", I mean....do you play at the same time as your boyfriend, doing the same quests and stuff? Or have you started on your own and begun experiencing the game from a first-time-here perspective?

I know several couples who play WoW and I always find it interesting to learn what works and doesn't work. Some of them log on together and do all the quests together and you never see their toons more than a few feet apart. But others that I know don't even play in the same guild. One likes hard core raiding and the other likes to "stop and smell the roses" so to speak.

Whatever works for you, I hope you continue to enjoy it. :thumbsup:

Unfortunately, he seldom plays with me. He always like to fight.

That's why I feel gloomy to start with nothing.

I gotta go!

[Trakamoocow]

I can only offer some friendly, straightforward advice.

First, catering. Remember your boyfriend is a busy guy, raiding and questing take their toll. The less moving he has to do the easier you will make it on him. So a light snack to start with is great (cordial, maybe some tasty cookies or crackers with cheese).

When dinnertime comes around, make sure it's something that can be consumed in front of the computer without too much hassle (so steer away from bolognese or anything too wet). At this time you can have a quick conversation and maybe even a nice hug/kiss. Once that is done, take the plates away quietly so they don't impede his gaming experience.

10pm swings around and he's still busy? No snacks so late, but a nice jug of juice or something similar is great (no caffeine, he's got to be in bed in a few hours). Depending on your bedtime, you might need to set an alarm for midnight to make sure you can freshen the jug.

2am, he's done raiding and is ready for some lovemaking. Hopefully you've had a nice shower and are wearing something sexy. Not snoring too loudly is a plus, so make sure you sleep on your side! Whatever you do don't act snippish when you're awakened, he's already had a tough day and doesn't need the added stress. Be prepared to do most of the work as well.

That covers my advice for during the week, any questions let me know =).

hth,

Traka~

[mesonm]

I can only offer some friendly, straightforward advice.

First, catering. Remember your boyfriend is a busy guy, raiding and questing take their toll. The less moving he has to do the easier you will make it on him. So a light snack to start with is great (cordial, maybe some tasty cookies or crackers with cheese).

When dinnertime comes around, make sure it's something that can be consumed in front of the computer without too much hassle (so steer away from bolognese or anything too wet). At this time you can have a quick conversation and maybe even a nice hug/kiss. Once that is done, take the plates away quietly so they don't impede his gaming experience.

10pm swings around and he's still busy? No snacks so late, but a nice jug of juice or something similar is great (no caffeine, he's got to be in bed in a few hours). Depending on your bedtime, you might need to set an alarm for midnight to make sure you can freshen the jug.

2am, he's done raiding and is ready for some lovemaking. Hopefully you've had a nice shower and are wearing something sexy. Not snoring too loudly is a plus, so make sure you sleep on your side! Whatever you do don't act snippish when you're awakened, he's already had a tough day and doesn't need the added stress. Be prepared to do most of the work as well.

That covers my advice for during the week, any questions let me know =).

hth,

Traka~

haha...that was hilarious....you owe me a new keyboard....

[RachelSu]

I can only offer some friendly, straightforward advice.

First, catering. Remember your boyfriend is a busy guy, raiding and questing take their toll. The less moving he has to do the easier you will make it on him. So a light snack to start with is great (cordial, maybe some tasty cookies or crackers with cheese).

When dinnertime comes around, make sure it's something that can be consumed in front of the computer without too much hassle (so steer away from bolognese or anything too wet). At this time you can have a quick conversation and maybe even a nice hug/kiss. Once that is done, take the plates away quietly so they don't impede his gaming experience.

10pm swings around and he's still busy? No snacks so late, but a nice jug of juice or something similar is great (no caffeine, he's got to be in bed in a few hours). Depending on your bedtime, you might need to set an alarm for midnight to make sure you can freshen the jug.

2am, he's done raiding and is ready for some lovemaking. Hopefully you've had a nice shower and are wearing something sexy. Not snoring too loudly is a plus, so make sure you sleep on your side! Whatever you do don't act snippish when you're awakened, he's already had a tough day and doesn't need the added stress. Be prepared to do most of the work as well.

That covers my advice for during the week, any questions let me know =).

hth,

Traka~

Is it something you are expecting from your girlfriend?

[Superspam]

Unfortunately the language barrier was in full effect here. Traka was being sarcastic. As a non-native speaker, you missed it.

[Trakamoocow]

Is it something you are expecting from your girlfriend?

Only if she knows what's good for her :afro:

[RachelSu]

Unfortunately the language barrier was in full effect here. Traka was being sarcastic. As a non-native speaker, you missed it.

ya, is it the way you guys are being mean to me?

[Mecrinomien]

Is it silly to love someone who cares about games more than you?

I don't think it is silly to love someone who cares about games more than you. I mean, what are you? Obsessed or something? What does it matter whether he loves games more than you or not? The only real question is whether you simply get the love you need, back from him. If you get enough love back. Everything is fine. If that is not the case. He is simply not the right partner for your. Get a new dude!

So, do you get enough love back?

[Trakamoocow]

The bad men on the interwebs are being mean? :-(. It wasn't intended as such, just an off-cuff remark to make light. Buut if you wanna get sensitive about it far be it from me to stop you.

Perhaps if you don't appear needy of his attention you'll reverse the situation a bit. I.e. It sounds as if you're going to him, often, and saying "OH back on THAT GAME, is like you dont even LOVE ME.", etc. I can't say this as fact but it sounds like it.

So if you don't sweat him over it (i.e. let him have his time, but set a time for 'you' time) you might find better results.

[dougfunny]

Yeah I'm with the people that say dump his ass.

Doug Funny :) http://smileyiconz.com/smileywink7.jpg

[Trakamoocow]

I see what you mean.

-Trakathemoocow :DXDXDXDXXDXD

[wyren]

I play way too much and am a hopeless addict. I make it a point whe with my girlfriend to pay total attention to her. She puts up better with my hobby if I let her know she is important. You need to figure out what your needs are tofeel loved. I like to go out twice a week and at least an hour a day of together time. Some days even that is impossible but at lest we have set targets. Oh and make sure discussion is held at a good time when he is in middle of game is not a good time.